“You can be right or you can be kind. Kind is better.” Sandra; a caregiver
People with Alzheimer’s and other dementias have more difficulty expressing thoughts and emotions; they also have more trouble understanding others. Here are some ways to more effectively interact with the person with Alzheimer’s.
Be patient and supportive.
Let the person know you’re listening and trying to understand. Show the person that you care about what he or she is saying and be careful not to interrupt.
Offer comfort and reassurance.
If he or she is having trouble communicating, let the person know that it’s okay. Encourage the person to continue to explain his or her thoughts.
Avoid criticizing or correcting.
Don’t tell the person what he or she is saying is incorrect. Instead, listen and try to find the meaning in what is being said. Repeat what was said if it helps to clarify the thought.
If the person says something you don’t agree with, let it be. Arguing usually only makes things worse – often heightening the level of agitation for the person with dementia.
Offer a guess.
If the person uses the wrong word or cannot find a word, try guessing the right one. If you understand what the person means, you may not need to give the correct word. Be careful not to cause unnecessary frustration.
Encourage unspoken communication.
If you don’t understand what is being said, ask the person to point or gesture.
Find a place that’s quiet. The surroundings should support the person’s ability to focus on his or her thoughts.
Focus on feelings, not facts.
Sometimes the emotions being expressed are more important than what is being said. Look for the feelings behind the words. Tone of voice and other actions provide clues.
Even in the later-stages of Alzheimer’s, people still benefit from continued interactions. When communicating with a person with dementia, it’s especially important to choose your words carefully.
Identify yourself and call the person by name.
Approach the person from the front and say who you are. Keep good eye contact; if the person is seated or reclined, go down to that level.
Use short, simple words and sentences.
Lengthy requests or stories can be overwhelming. Ask one questions at a time.
Speak slowly and distinctively.
Be aware of speed and clarity. Use a gentle tone-a lower pitch is more calming.
Patiently wait for a response.
The person may need extra time to process what you said.
Repeat information or questions as needed.
If the person doesn’t respond, wait a moment. Then ask again using the same words.
Turn questions into answers.
Provide the solution rather than the question. For example, say “The bathroom is right here,” instead of asking, “Do you need to use the bathroom?”
Avoid confusing and vague statements.
If you tell the person to “Hop in!” he or she may interpret your instructions literally. Instead, describe the action directly: “Please come here. Your shower is ready.” Instead of using “it” or “that”, name the object or place. For example, rather than “Here it is” say “Here is your hat.” Point or touch the item you want the individual to use or see.
Turn negatives into positives.
Instead of saying, “Don’t go there,” say, “Let’s go here.”
Reminiscing may be healthy, but avoid asking, “Do you remember when…?”
Write things down.
Try using written notes as reminders if the person is able to understand them.
Treat the person with dignity and respect.
Avoid talking down to the person or talking as if he or she isn’t there.
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